Those who know me know what is happening in our lives at the moment and it's the most challenging situation I have EVER been faced with. I just don't know what to do. I don't know if I can do anything but I need to try.
I am in a space at the moment where everything just seems so pointless. PLEASE please send some positiveness our way ~ I believe it has to help some way.
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Just remember that the struggles on both sides are due to a common love of a terrific little girl. You have said that he loves her. I would be torn apart like you if I couldn't see my kids every day. Maybe he feels a bit like this too. She's a gorgeous little thing, so I can understand him wanting his share of her. But before you start HATING me (!!) it would kill me to be in your shoes too....
xxxJane
That's just it Jane. This has all been about 'his share' as you put it. What about my child? What about what's right for Kara? I am not debating the fact that Kara should have alternate weekends and mid week sleepovers. I am debating the whole 50-50 living situation. It is rubbish. Can anybody honestly say, that it is a situation suited to a 5, 6, 7 year old child, especially when she has never lived with this man? It's not a situation where she was living with both parents who then parted. It's a situation where changes are taking place according to HIS needs. Kara has a happy stable home. Yes, Kara needs her father involved in her life BUT Kara's whole world should not be changed to enable that. Her father claims that he has a great relationship with Kara and Kara has been 'assessed' to be a very happy little girl. Why then cause more change in her life if what is working is already in place?
This should not be about his rights/share or my rights/share. If that was the debate, well I know what he deserves...... this is about a little girl who's life is going to change in a way that SHE doesn't want. Kara is still struggling with a full weekend ~ how is she supposed to go a week at a time away from her mother? How is that in her interests? It's not ~ it's in his interests.
I did hesitate posting this as I do NOT want a debate about this on my blog ~ I will not publish comments which attempt to form one either. I understand my daughter is entitled to a father in her life ~ I am in no way debating that. BUT she is also entitled to not be the victim in this and believe me, if what has been proposed is in place, she will be.
I don't hate you Jane ~ you are entitled to an opinion but I just don't agree with it lol.
V xxx
I don't agree with the whole fifty/fifty thing full stop, in my opinion its wrong!!
OK. Points VERY well made. Perhaps look at law as your next career (you'd be a good barrister!!)
xxxJane
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